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Yesterday morning (Monday) I got a rude awakening, by a phone call from my daughters school principal.

Apparently my 11 year old had flipped the bird to her bus driver on Friday afternoon.
Punishment was decided that she had to give a written apology to the driver or she would be suspended from the bus today (Tuesday).

Being half asleep (this call came in the middle of my normal sleep period) I said “OK you deal with your end and I will reinforce the punishment at my end”.
Not the smartest response I found out as soon as my wife and I talked about this, as she had been dealing with the school on this matter.

She was cheesed first that the school had ignored her input and second they had now involved me.

As it turns out this driver has been constantly deriding my daughter on her bus to the point, she doesn’t even look elsewhere when there is loudness or any other disturbance,she just yells at my daughter.

My daughter is fairly sensitive and mopping for several weeks until she finally confided in her mother about this treatment 2 weeks ago (I was not informed until yesterday).

So now I’m a little upset myself, off to the school I go.

I had what I thought was an understanding ear in the school principal, when I told him how my daughter was treated and therefore no apology letter would be given by my daughter unless an apology was also given to her by this driver.

I would accept the one day suspension because it would be me driving my daughter to school for that day.

When my daughter came home and found out that I had been to the school to support her, she gave me a big hug and started crying.

From now on I think she will come to us quicker and be a little more trusting, which is a good thing.

But I still have a problem, what do I do about a principal that went against my express wishes, and forced my child to act in a more mature manner then an adult (authority figure)?

My daughter gave an apology letter to this abusive person to get the response “I’ll give you a second chance”.

No recognition of the cost to my daughter or her own culpability or immaturity.

Keep the faith.